Happiness

The Things That Make Us Happy

The Myth: We think the finer things in life will make us happy. The Reality: Most of what makes us happy is pretty prosaic.

Happiness is stubborn; hard to find, difficult to augment. Circumstances under our control (employment, education, money) account for only about 10 to 15 percent of our "subjective well-being," the technical term for how good we judge life to be. Happiness is largely due to personality traits and temperament; the torments or glories of fate don't make a huge difference in how we feel. When it comes to subjective well-being, "you don't get a big bang out of the real world," says Alex Michalos of the University of Northern British Columbia.

But if you're determined to optimize that 10 to 15 percent that's in your control, our happiness fact list offers a few clues that are based on multiple studies.

Beauty
People like pretty. Good looks help your popularity and, by extension, your career; both boost mood. But beauty on its own doesn't do much good.

Money
If you're poor, money does make a difference. But above a threshold of about $40,000 a year, more won't make you happier. Comparisons, though, influence your state of mind: No matter how much or how little you make, doing better than your neighbor will make you feel better.

Education
In the 1950s, book learning brought happiness, but a college education no longer lifts well-being on its own. Education opens the door to a better career, but it also fosters higher expectations that may be disappointed.

Aging
Young people are more aware of bad news and negative emotions than are the elderly. Aging seems to bias us toward the positive, despite more fragile health and finances; that may be because we've come closer to reaching our goals.

Intelligence
Smarts have only a weak effect on happiness; being brainy may decrease satisfaction by raising your expectations and making you more aware of your shortcomings.

Religion
Surprisingly, churchgoers get only a small lift from the Lord. The cause: Faith fosters both community ties and social networks, which are both known to make people happier.

Free time
Well-spent leisure time can lead to great leaps in happiness: Activities that combine socializing and physical activity and require some moderate skills are the best . Most of us spend a lot of our leisure time watching TV, which can be relaxing; but we'd be happier if we just went bowling,football or even basketball. Don't envy your laid-off friends; while the unemployed have more time, most have little active leisure, which is one of the reasons they're so unhappy.

Narcissism
High self-esteem protects against psychological suffering, and a little bit of narcissism is good for your mood: People with abundant self-love are less likely to be depressed, lonely or anxious.(See,self-satisfaction is good*sometime*)

Social skills
Friendship is one of life's main joys. Due to novelty, spending time with friends lifts your mood more than spending time with family. Being cooperative and knowing how to chat up the opposite sex are also associated with happiness.*That's why I'm always being "friendly".*

Sense of humor
Not taking things so seriously can bring hope and happiness. People with a hopeful outlook tend to also be good at laughing.

Volunteering
In one study, volunteer and charity work generated more joy than anything except dancing. The sense of accomplishment, the social connection and the chance to do something meaningful are what make it so much fun.*Helping people is always a fun thing to do,that's what I always do.Believe it or not,it's your business.*

Hint: Enjoy the little things; being pleased frequently has more influence on well-being than being intensely happy once in a while.

Edited by:
Aaron